Recently I was chatting to a friend that I was helping. He was in my office and we sat and chatted about the current problem. I am a voice coach and do it for free. I have helped hundreds of guys get a deeper voice and I enjoy it. But Allan put it so succinctly, I had to share it with you here.

Allan was flipping burgers at the local franchise while completing his studies. His experience is very common for a guy with a high pitched voice. The way Allan put it, he was “tolerated” by others. He often woke in the mornings with a reasonable voice timber, not Barry White, but at least a good sounding Barry Manillow. But by 10 am he was sounding like “Screech”.

He was relaying all this to me as his voice was indeed changing and showing variations that really had no relevance to the meaning he was communicating. I found I had to consciously filter out his meaning for him and decipher, what he was actually saying and what his involuntary voice inflections were doing.

This is part of the problem. Poor communications. However the worst part is the assessments of others. Making the voice deeper improves your odds in so many ways. It is the one thing you can do about your self that will have the most dramatic long term impact. From women to job prospects, from business dealings, to important life challenges. A deeper voice seems to just tip the odds your way. This is what Allan was talking about. He was tired of just being tolerated. I didn’t blame him one bit.

When you make a humming sound, using the deepest tone you currently have, with your head dipped down, your chin to your chest, you can notice something revealing. The minute you make that same exact tone, but lift your head up high, with your chin to the sky, that same tone becomes higher.

What this shows, is that tension is the answer to a deep crisp voice. A voice box can become tense for many reasons and the resulting voice can become quite squeaky or high pitched. This has nothing to do with the size of your vocal chords. When you lifted your head in the exercise above, the vocal chords were stretched tighter, causing the sound of the tone to become higher.

Think of your vocal chords like a string on a guitar. If you have ever seen a guitar close up, you will have noticed that there is a heavy thick string at the top and a light thin string at the bottom. People like Barry White could be associated with the top thick string, and average men may be closer to the bottom thin string.

But the thing is, when you loosen even the bottom thin string, it can begin to sound very deep. Despite its thickness, even the thinnest string can sound quite deep and give a low tone if it is loosened sufficiently.

The quickest way to deepen your speaking voice is to release the tension that must exist in your vocal chords, if your voice is thin or squeaky. The vocal chords are a muscle group that can easily be conditioned and trained to relax and reverberate deeply.

When you think about it, voice control is simply a matter of muscle memory and that can easily be learned. The thing about having an inconsistent voice or a high pitched voice, is that it eats into our social power. People just seem to trust men with a reassuringly deep crisp voice.

Developing a sense for how your voice feels and creating that same environment whenever you need it, you can easily gain that skill and enjoy the status of having a sincere sounding crisp speaking voice. Much of it has to do with inner confidence, but ultimately it is a mechanical muscle thing.

Many men, afflicted with this condition often report that their voice is typically nice and deep in the mornings after a good nights sleep and this is particularly interesting and a clue. Stress elements creep into the muscle group responsible for creating that raw sound, that the mouth uses to shape into words and sentences. These stress elements are created because of the types of muscle memories you associate with your daily interactions.

It is no surprise to hear men with this condition, lose all symptoms and become deep crisp sounding talkers the minute they touch down on their holiday destination and leave the environment that created these stress elements. Unless you have a medical reason for this condition, you can quite easily over come it with a few simple exercises and techniques. The one thing you do need however is to recover your social power and develop that muscular control and confidence.

It is amazing how much effect a full rich voice has on the reception of your conversation. People take you more seriously and pay more attention to your words if you have a deep resonant voice. In fact even people who have nothing of import to say and yet have commanding voices, are listened to with respect. It is a proven fact that our voice quality has much to do with our social acceptance.

Are you happy with your voice? Did it ever occur to you that the voice you have does not have to be the voice you are stuck with if you are not happy with it?. Do you ever say to yourself,”I wish I could make my voice deeper and fuller?” Voice control can be learned. Your voice can be trained just like any other physical part of your body. Try standing erect and balanced, allowing your jaw to relax. Speak as though you were using your abdomen instead of your throat to form the sound. Notice the difference in the sound as opposed to the shallow sound of your voice when you talk while slumped is your recliner with shallow breathing.

Public speakers and radio and TV personalities have known and proved for years that their popularity and success is due in large part to their crisp speaking voice. It is not just what they say, but how they say it that leaves an impression on people. Our current president is a prime example of this. In men, a deep resonant voice instills trust and respect in their hearers. The same is true for women who have rich warm voices.

While there are many things that can adversely affect your voice quality such as stress or nervousness, a full stomach, cold weather, tiredness, and poor posture, voice control is simply a matter of muscle and breath control. Learning voice control should be a priority for anyone who wants to be regarded with respect and trust by their peers. It is certainly a must for those who are in sales.