Recently I was chatting to a friend that I was helping. He was in my office and we sat and chatted about the current problem. I am a voice coach and do it for free. I have helped hundreds of guys get a deeper voice and I enjoy it. But Allan put it so succinctly, I had to share it with you here.

Allan was flipping burgers at the local franchise while completing his studies. His experience is very common for a guy with a high pitched voice. The way Allan put it, he was “tolerated” by others. He often woke in the mornings with a reasonable voice timber, not Barry White, but at least a good sounding Barry Manillow. But by 10 am he was sounding like “Screech”.

He was relaying all this to me as his voice was indeed changing and showing variations that really had no relevance to the meaning he was communicating. I found I had to consciously filter out his meaning for him and decipher, what he was actually saying and what his involuntary voice inflections were doing.

This is part of the problem. Poor communications. However the worst part is the assessments of others. Making the voice deeper improves your odds in so many ways. It is the one thing you can do about your self that will have the most dramatic long term impact. From women to job prospects, from business dealings, to important life challenges. A deeper voice seems to just tip the odds your way. This is what Allan was talking about. He was tired of just being tolerated. I didn’t blame him one bit.

Getting a deeper, crisper timber in your voice can have a positive impact on your life. After all, life is mostly dependent on social interaction, and having a light, thin voice in a man especially, can not only be embarrassing, but socially ineffective, so here are a few tips.

1) Relax, before speaking, make sure you are relaxed. Many people who fail to have a deep crisp voice simply don’t remember to relax and that anxiety is translated into stress elements in the vocal chords. So ideally, you will always remember to think before making any words. This is a small point, because there are several reasons why the voice is strained or high pitched, but it is definitely worth keeping in mind because, even if you say nothing, sometimes it is more powerful than speaking up in a squeaky voice.

2) Eye contact gives you confidence, so always remember to make eye contact when speaking. A lack of confidence socially can lead to awkward sounding voice inflections. When your confidence is high, typically your voice will lower because you feel a greater sense of self control. This comes with good body posture, head up, and of course vocal timber control.

3) Be assertive. Not aggressive, many people confuse assertiveness with aggression. Assertiveness is controlled aggression and it is designed to give you control of your social environment. Showing assertive qualities is not always wise, depending on what the social environment is, however, being assertive approximately 10% of your social time helps allow for confidence to build, others in you and you in yourself.